In doing spiritual counseling, so many people come and want to tell their "story.” They expound on what’s wrong, this happened to me, this person did this to me, etc. If someone is hurting, we need to listen to the story as it can help in releasing and letting go.
But if we keep telling the story over and over, the story will perpetuate itself, simply by Law of Attraction. Even after listening to the client’s story, asking questions for clarification, and then making some suggestions on not focusing on the story but to change the focus, the client wants to tell the old story — over and over and over.
Our culture, society and media promotes this. Watch CNN and see how many articles are done on the same situation. Our story is then repeated via texting about it, emailing about it, blogging about it and, yes, “Facebook-ing” about it. We, as a collective, tend to focus on “What Is” so much so that we suffer from what is called “What-is-itis” — an appropriate term, as it is making us sick in so many ways.
What we are experiencing in our lives is really the past or “old news.” Once we manifest something in our lives, we have gone through the creating process and brought forth that thought or set of thoughts into physical form. Now it’s done and it’s here, and it becomes the past very quickly. We re-create the past and bring it into the present over and over again and it becomes our "story.”
Eckhart Tolle in his masterful works about being in the NOW helps us to not live in the past or worry about the future. If we can break that cycle and just be present, our lives transform by not recycling the past and by letting go of anxiety about future events.
Living in the present moment, when practiced properly, brings a centered peacefulness, free of anxiety. We actually cannot help but be in the NOW; when we choose to think about the past, we bring the past to the present moment. We need to honor our past as it has, through its lessons, brought us to where and what we are in this moment. But honoring the past does not mean we need to re-live it. It’s time to move on.
This brings us to the question, then, “How do we create our future?”
So many books, so many teachings, so many practices have taught us how we can and do create our lives. Most create their lives by default or unconsciously. Others are learning that we can intentionally create and mold every aspect of our lives.
The answer to the question, "How do we create our lives?" is deceivingly simple: WHAT WE FOCUS UPON AND GIVE OUR ENERGY TO, IS WHAT WE CREATE.
With this we become, in essence, our creation. We must become our creation first to experience it in physical form.
The proof that this works is also very simple. Take a look at what is in your life. Are you experiencing the same thing over and over again? Oh yes, it may a little different, but it’s the same tragedy, suffering, pain, lack and non-fulfillment as before. Are you repeating the same story over and over again? Do you have “What-is-itis”? If you do, then start changing your story. You are already a very powerful creator.
Looking at these concepts of re-living our past, being in the present moment and consciously creating our future, how do we bring these together in an easy practice?
The answer is also very simple:
1. Give thanks for everything in your life. Start with the things that give you joy and eventually give thanks for the “painful” things as they have brought you wisdom. This is honoring the past but living in the NOW. Do this daily.
2. Focus on what you want to create or experience in your life. Do it over and over again. Write about it, imagine it and then emotionally experience it; what does it feel like to have it?
3. Give thanks for your new creation.
That’s it! You need do nothing more to completely change your life, a little at a time.
Our new mantra (story) becomes: I give thanks for what is, and gratefully focus on what I want.
Jim Hatton is author (under the name James Apollonius Alan) of “A Spiritual Master’s Guide to Life,” available on Amazon or at SpiritualMaster.co. Send 600- to 700-word articles to Sally McKirgan at firstname.lastname@example.org.